How to NOT diet

Helping you heal your relationship with food and exercise through intuitive eating

  • Why dieting is not sustainable

  • What really is Intuitive Eating

  • How to understand the power of food satisfaction, hunger and fullness

  • Simple ways to help you overcome the diet mentality

  • How to start embracing your body in the ‘right now’ phase

  • Bonus chapters on how to eat intuitively through your menstrual cycle

Things you’ll learn

Over 10 years ago, I experienced my first diet.

I was a sophomore in college. I was very insecure. All of my friends seemed to have their shit together and knew the direction in which they were headed. They were confident at college parties and guys loved them.

+ then there was me… Trying to figure out who I was and what I wanted. Pretending I was happy. But I felt nothing but jealousy. I remember feeling like there was something wrong with me and that I had to settle with being in the body I was in for the rest of my life.

I gained a lot of weight that year. So, I tried something new: a grapefruit diet.

It consisted of nothing but grapefruits, chicken and lettuce. Just the thought of it now grosses me out.

Looking back, I wish I could tell myself that it won’t always be like this and give my old self a big fat hug.

But that was probably a moment that was necessary for me to experience or I probably wouldn’t be writing this for you.

I did lose weight. And I came back to school my junior year feeling better than ever.

BUT, Something was missing.

I still feared food. I still thought that being on a diet was the way to go.

And I wanted to learn more.

So, I packed my bags + transferred schools to study nutrition and dietetics.

I learned a lot, but started to battle with ‘clean eating’.

I also tried IFFYM. I tried low carb everything. I worked out ALL the time.

But I still felt like something was off.

And that off feeling is what landed me in the ER for constipation.

I knew what to eat. I studied it for goodness sake. What the heck is going on?!

I remember my one professor sharing with us in school that “maintaining is the hardest part”. After she said that, I felt nothing but disappointment. Like what’s the freaking point in all of this then? We’re always on and off a diet? We are always are striving to be ‘skinny’? And why are some people not struggling with this, but I am?

turns out, that is far from the truth.

And that’s what you’ll learn when you get this guide!

 
 

I’ve struggled with my weight since I was 10 years old. I have an identical twin that has shared the same struggles with me. I was introduced to the intuitive eating concepts in 2015 when I hit my rock bottom.

I was tired of obsessing about food.

I was tired of worrying if I put the right foods or wrong foods in mouth and if either of those foods would be the ones to make me fat or make me skinny.

I was fed the eff up with planning my meals just to find myself nauseated at the sight and smell of it even though I ate it anyway.

I was tired of feeling scared to eat a chocolate chip muffin or god damn cookie without feeling guilt.

I was tired of eating barely anything thinking it would give me the energy I needed to do the most insane HIIT classes in my living room.

I was tired of always waiting for the perfect body to arrive the following morning.

I was tired of spending money on stupid workouts and fad diets that gave me nothing but broken promises.

I was tired of wondering what the other girl was eating and doing to look so damn good while I was doing “all the right things” but still not getting the results I dreamt of since I was 10.

I was tired of waiting until Monday.

And I was tired of hating fucking carbs.

Aren’t you tired of feeling like this too?!

You want to know my tipping point?

The day I came home from the ER with constipation because of my extremely low carb and low fiber diet.

I came home that day, sat on my bed and cried. I remember thinking, “WTF there’s got to be another way, I am SO done".

Turns out, there was.

I googled, “how to not diet”.

And boom.

There it was.

2 little words.

2 little words that eventually changed my life around food forever.

Intuitive Eating

+ start living life on your terms

 
 

The girl that is effing ready for change. The girl that is ready (or as ready as she’ll ever be) to do some self-reflection and self-discovery. The girl that is open and can feel in her heart that this is what she needs to finally feel free around food, fitness and her body. The girl that is willing to put in the hard work regardless of how uncomfortable it may feel or seem. The girl that has reached her rock bottom moment and cannot go another damn day following a diet, signing up for (yet another) workout program, or without eating carbs. If this sounds like you… you’re ready, girlfriend!

 
 

The girl that expects a quick fix. Nothing worth having comes easy. Lot’s of people think that change should happen overnight + they become very impatient - which is why so many of those same people choose to diet. Diets give us quick fix promises, which is why it’s not sustainable.

The girl that is full of excuses. If you’ve reached your rock bottom moment, you’re ready + you do not have excuses. The girl with excuses still believes the diet around the corner will be her saving grace, but here’s your tough love, it will not be your saving grace. Learning how to listen to your body especially around food, will be your saving grace, but it will take some time and courage.

The girl that is undergoing some serious, life threatening disordered eating. I am not a doctor or psychologist and if you feel you need more help than I can help you with, seek that out first. If you need suggestions, you can always ask me! xoxo

 change does not happen overnight, but when it does happen it will feel like it did

Not discovering Intuitive Eating sooner! I still can’t believe more people do not talk about this. I can’t change the past, but if I had my hands on something like this back when I was realllllllyyyyy struggling - things could have looked totally different!

To respect others’ journey’s rather than comparing myself to them. As you know, there’s always going to be a new diet plastered in front of your face as you turn the next corner or scroll on IG. And we can fall into a trap of comparing what we don’t have (yet!) to what they do have. But here’s the thing, we all have our own journey and we all start somewhere!

To fully trust this process. It can feel challenging to approach Intuitive Eating (especially for the first time) and we tend to feel like ‘its not working’ or think ‘am I doing this right?’. And when we resist it, we don’t get everything out of it that we could. The sooner you start trusting the process and let go of your excuses, the closer you become to food freedom!

It’s really not about weight-loss anymore

it’s about feeling good, listening to your body + embracing the best version of you

 
 

A life that is expansive.

A life with possibility.

When we are dieting or focused on changing our body, that is literally all we effing think about. Don’t you agree?

What if you didn’t have to think about that anymore?

What if you could open some serious doors for bigger and better things?

What if you could actually enjoy the company of loved ones without fearing the menu? Without dissecting everything you put in your damn mouth?

Wouldn’t that feel freaking amazing?

Well guess what? It does feel amazing.

I feel it every single day

and you can too!

So stop telling yourself you’re not worth it

 
 

Why I’ve decided to put a price tag on this

Because you are worth it and I want this experience to feel exactly how you imagine it.

When you go to Starbucks, you obviously want a cup of coffee BUT… you also want the experience. You could easily brew your own cup at home or head to your local Wawa for a $2 cup of coffee.

It just wouldn’t be the same.

This guide is designed to give you not only valuable information, but a vibe.

We all have shit going on.

We all have bills.

We all have money to save.

But what if this could change your life?

To me, that’s worth every penny.

who am I?

Hey lady! I’m Kel Benner, creater of the blog called feelgoodRDH where I help women like you live a life without dieting.

It took me a solid year to relearn how to eat and exercise without being obsessed about changing my body. As each year passes, I always learn something new about myself. And that’s why I’ve created my very own Intuitive Eating Guide: Let Eating Feel Easy because it’s exactly what I’ve discovered along the way.

I want you to know that you can live a life without obsessing about every little thing you put in your body.

And I’m here to help guide you through your journey, one day at a time!

Intuitive Eating:
Let Eating Feel Easy